Dan le Man: Field Notes: Lessons from 20+ years on stage and in startup rooms. What works, what doesn't, and why it matters - no guru stuff.

You're about to step on stage. Your heart's pounding. Your palms are sweaty. Your brain is screaming at you that something is wrong.

And here's what I need you to understand: nothing is wrong (most likely anyway).

That feeling? It's not anxiety. It's exciting. And you've been mislabeling it your entire life and losing the potential of control.

The Lie We Tell Ourselves

Somewhere along the way, someone told you that the physical sensation you get before a high-stakes moment is "nervousness" or "anxiety." Maybe it was a teacher, a parent, or just the general cultural script we all absorbed growing up. BS. 

The thing is though that the chemical response in your body when you feel anxious is identical to the response when you feel excited.

Same endorphins. Same adrenaline. Same physical reaction.

The only difference is the story you're telling yourself about it.

The Rollercoaster Test

Think about winter for a second. If you decide you hate winter, it doesn't change winter one bit. It's still going to snow. It's still going to be cold. It's still going to do exactly what winter does every year.

Winter is bigger than you. You cannot control winter.

The same is true for that feeling before you pitch, perform, or speak. It's happening whether you like it or not. You can't make it go away by wishing it away or white-knuckling through it.

So if you can't change the feeling, you can change what you call it, and take back control.

Standing on stage in front of 1,000 people? That's not something you do every day. That's not normal. That's extraordinary.

So why wouldn't you feel extraordinary?

The One-Word Shift

Next time someone asks you how you're feeling before you go on stage, don't say "nervous."

Say "awesome."

I'm not joking. Try it.

"How are you feeling?"

"Awesome."

Say it with a smile. Say it out loud. Let your body hear it.

Because the moment you reframe the feeling, your brain follows. You walk on stage differently. You stand differently. You speak differently.

You stop fighting yourself and start using the energy.

Why This Matters in Real Life

Let's say your business depends on you standing in front of a thousand people and pitching for 20 minutes. That's your make-or-break moment.

You could show up thinking: "Oh god, I'm so anxious. This is terrifying. I hate this."

Or you could show up thinking: "This is awesome. Not everyone gets this opportunity. This is my shot."

Same room. Same stakes. Same physical sensation.

Completely different outcome.

The Bottom Line

There is no secret technique to eliminate stage anxiety. Not because they do not work, but because there might not be time to use them. 

We are not talking about changing a specific state in “the critical moment.” 

We are talking about solving the problem permanently. 

Because the feeling isn't the problem.

The problem is that you've been calling it the wrong thing.

Delete the word "anxiety." Replace it with "awesomeness."

That's it. That's the entire strategy.

And yes, it really is that simple.

Business for the Culturally Bold,

Dan le Man

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No guru stuff. Just practical tools to help you communicate clearly, concisely, and charismatically.